Ladies, Will You go 50/50 on the First Date?
There is something almost magical about getting dolled up to meet up with a guy you deem worthy of your precious time. All my red blooded, rose colored glasses wearing, romantic movie primed females would agree with me, that it is indeed a thing of beauty.
I get all giddy playing out how the first date is going to go in my head. I’m a bit over the top when it comes to these things, I find myself already thinking of themes for our pre-wedding photo-shoot and what not.
I then do breathing exercises to reign in my over zealousness *sigh*
There’s no gain saying at this point that I am traditional, not exactly a Nigerian Julia Child/Betty Crocker but I do have plans of fattening up the poor sucker I end up with, using throw-down skills handed down to me by my mother and her mother before her and I will enjoy every minute of it.
I have a lot to offer someone who shares the same values with me. And I thought I had found just the one. He spoke well, came off as chivalrous and seemed like an all-round cool cat, he asked me out on a date and I said yes. He picked me up and we went to see a movie.
We proceeded into the movie theater where (wait for it)……..
He waltzed off towards the box office telling me to pay for popcorn and drinks while he buys the movie ticket.
I was shook.
I had heard horror stories of splitting the bill. It has always been a foreign concept to me.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not sitting around waiting some dude to take me out, before I have a good time.
I can take care of myself. I buy what I want when I want and if I can’t afford it, I look away thank you very much. My weave collection costs a small fortune and I have no plans of letting up anytime soon. Guess who bought them all, I did. That’s right, with my hard earned money.
Color me old school, or even worse a lover of patriarchy, it’s your opinion and you’re entitled to it. I maintain that paying for the bill at least on the first date, is the gentlemanly thing to do.
Many of my millennial counterparts will beg to differ. Most of the ladies would say they are independent women after all, and really how much is popcorn and some snacks? And the dudes will say it’s nice to have the tables turned every now and again, have a lady pay for some stuff while their pockets rest easy from time to time.
On this platform we do not take a dump anyone’s world view, by all means do you. All I’m saying is I will not go on date with someone for the first time and be expected to split the bill.
Think I’m wrong? Change my mind in the comment section below.
Credit: Tobi Akhanamoya